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    Wendy Hunter, RP | Understanding the Difference: Tantrum vs. Meltdown

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    As a Registered Psychotherapist, parents ask me what is the difference between a temper tantrum and a meltdown? 

    It is difficult to tell sometimes for sure.  Knowing whether it’s a tantrum or meltdown will help you effectively manage and support your child during these episodes.

    ComponentsTemper TantrumEmotional Meltdown
    DefinitionOutbursts of frustration and anger that is often intentionalOverwhelming emotional response that is often unintentional
    TriggersFrustration from not achieving a goal, being denied something, not getting their wayStress and anxiety, emotional overwhelm and sensory overload
    ControlWithin the child’s control to some extentMostly beyond the child’s control
    DurationUsually short, lasting a few minutesCan last from minutes to hours
    Emotional ResponseAnnoyance, frustration, angerConfusion, overwhelmed, fear
    Physical ResponsePossible aggression, red face, clenched fistsPossible aggression, increased heart rate, sweating
    BehaviourCrying, screaming, stomping feet, throwing thingsCrying, screaming, shutting down, self-soothing hehaviours
    Age AppropriatenessMost common in younger childrenCan occur at any age of childhood

    As you can see from the chart above, there are many differences between a temper tantrum and an emotional meltdown.  (ref: Psychology Today).  Once you identify which it is, you can choose the most effective way to manage and support your children.  

    Let’s consider other aspects of the temper tantrum and how parents can help their child.  Psychology Today states that Temper tantrums are a normal part of childhood development. Children, especially toddlers, sometimes struggle to control and express their emotions. As we learn to regulate emotions and verbalize our needs better, we typically grow out of having these outbursts. It is important to set boundaries with your child.  When children know what to expect, tantrums will lessen.  Parents need to manage their own emotions during a tantrum and remain calm.  This will help your child calm down sooner.  Children who have tantrums are often seeking attention or a specific goal.  Remember to ‘catch your child doing something good’ which means that using descriptive praise is an effective way to encourage your child to behaviour in a positive manner.  Another thing that parents can do is to show their child appropriate ways to express emotions through their own behaviour.  Once the tantrum is over, acknowledge, with your child, the effort it took for them to calm down.

    When we are dealing with an emotional meltdown, we need to guide and support children throughout this challenging time with empathy.  As parents, we need to recognize that meltdowns may take longer to recover from and children often feel exhausted when it’s over.  We can also help by providing a calm, safe environment that will help decrease fear and help them feel safe.  Meltdowns can be an indication that your child maybe dealing with increased worry or anxiety.  The Anxiety Disorders Association of Canada reports that anxiety disorders are the most common mental health concern for children and youth today.

    If you are concerned with your child’s tantrums or meltdowns, I can provide support and effective strategies to both you as a parent and also your child.  Please feel free to contact me at 705-794-5307 or [email protected].   

    Wendy Hunter, RP

    In Support of Children Counselling

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    Wendy Hunter
    Wendy Hunter
    My name is Wendy Hunter and I provide counselling services through my private practice, In Support Of Children Counselling. I work with families in Collingwood, Wasaga Beach and throughout Simcoe County. I teach children, teens, parents, and families effective strategies and coping skills to enrich their lives and navigate challenges with confidence and hope. My own life experiences are similar to many of my clients. I remember the people that helped my family, when I was young, and I wanted to give back when I grew up. Their support, empathy, compassion, and impact are why I became a Child Counsellor and Parent Coach and ultimately a Registered Psychotherapist. My career has always been rooted in working with and supporting children and their families. I worked as an Early Childhood Educator, Resource Teacher, Parent Educator, and Outreach Worker in Simcoe County for many years before returning to school as a single parent and launching a career as a Registered Psychotherapist. In 2012 I started my private practice. Today I provide support and education to children, parents and families who are dealing with anxiety, depression, loss and grief, ADHD, learning disabilities and trauma among other issues. I teach children and teens how to cope, manage emotions, and problem solve. My goal is to build self esteem and resilience in my clients and their families.

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